It's posts like these that are why the CE board got shut down and why this thread will be locked shortly. Racially insensitive and divisive at a minimum and Skinny, I suggest you look in the mirror and ask that question, since generally racists are the ones who think there's no racism.
@yesrutgers01 - keep up the good fight - you make superbly insightful posts on race in America, given your unique (for this board at least, which leans as far right and white and male as any collection of 1000+ adults can) perspective and experiences.
My most shocking personal realization of racism came only about 10 years ago the day after my 30th HS reunion, when I was hanging out with 4 of my HS friends (all white - 99% white HS in South Jersey with maybe 4 of 400 black graduates and 2-3 Jews, one of whom was my best friend). I felt I was reasonably well traveled and read by the time I was 48 and I had a few close black friends over the years, including a great friend/roommate in college, so I thought I had seen a few things and knew a lot about racism.
So the night after the reunion I was out with 4 of the guys I grew up with and growing up through the 70s in an all white town, there wasn't much obvious racism, since there was nobody around to be racist to and apart from the occasional racist joke, which I never thought much about back then, I simply didn't give race much thought, except in the books I read. All 4 of these guys stayed in our hometown area and 3 didn't go to college, but have done ok in various blue collar jobs (the other guy is in pharma) - I kind of lost touch with them since HS, as I didn't come back much, but we became FB friends when that all started up around 2007-8.
Anyway, it was the middle of football season and this was when Michael Vick was the Eagles QB and they were on TV and he made a bad play and one of the guys called him a "stupid effin n-----" and the other guys laughed. I didn't, but I'd heard talk like that before (there are always some white guys who assume that other white guys are ok with racist talk) and challenged them saying c'mon, that's a dumb racist thing to say and then we got into a discussion on black QBs and they all said Vick, McNabb, etc., would never win a Super Bowl and that Doug Williams was a fluke and that black QBs simply weren't smart enough to lead teams to a SB win - I argued pretty hard with them and they could tell I was pissed so we started talking about HS stuff.
Nobody used the N-word again, since it was clear I wasn't having that, but it was also still clear these guys all thought like every NFL GM in the 60s through the 90s, at least. It was jarring. I had planned to stay and watch the whole game, but left at halftime, as I realized that maybe they'd always been racist, but I was too naive to see it in HS and I never really saw them much in the next 30 years (or at least race didn't really come up when I did). I don't think they all of a sudden became bad people, but man what a shock to see the casual racism and I'm sure this was not some odd anomaly, especially judging by the posts in this thread.
I'll also relate one really great formative period in my life, junior year at RU, when I lived with a good friend of mine who was black (we were both engineers) and where I had the privilege of truly learning at least somewhat what it was like to be a minority. While we had some larger parties with everyone in the apartment, which were mostly white, my roommate had a couple of smaller parties where I was one of maybe 2 white folks out of 25-30. I had never been a "minority" before in any setting and I was certainly nervous at first, but also found it to be pretty eye-opening and a helluva lot of fun.
My roommate and I used to talk about race all the time (he taught me a lot) and about 5 of us spent an hour after the party mostly talking about race - they were actually very interested in my perspective having been a "minority" for a night. My immediate first thought was Atticus Finch from To Kill A Mockingbird talking about how much one can learn by "walking around in someone else's skin." My stock went up a few notches after bringing in that perspective.