Boeheim coaching tonight
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Out of respect for the grieving family.
The message they are getting right now is “I thought about it and decided it’s best to get on with my life.”
And the family is treated to the sight of Boeheim arriving at the Carrier dome to cheering fans, while they mourn their recently deceased loved one.
I just think it would have been better form on JB’s part to take one game off.
The message they are getting right now is “I thought about it and decided it’s best to get on with my life.”
And the family is treated to the sight of Boeheim arriving at the Carrier dome to cheering fans, while they mourn their recently deceased loved one.
I just think it would have been better form on JB’s part to take one game off.
I agree with taking the night off. However, I see the argument that it is about the team and the players.
I frankly think he would have taken the game off. Perhaps he does it for the games after.
I frankly think he would have taken the game off. Perhaps he does it for the games after.
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At the end of the day on purpose or not he killed someone. Probably will think about it for the rest of his life. Syracuse fans showing support which is nice and he looks like he is remorseful and his wife is crying.... that being said it isn’t about him. It is about the guy he killed and his family. All the love they are showing boeheim makes it seem like he was the victim a little bit.
I think the right think to do would be to sit this one out. Some things are bigger than basketball.
However, he may have spoken to the family about it and they may have said coch
Why?
It might be therapeutic for him to Coach tonight. Plus there is no indication that he did anything wrong.
I don’t know how he’s out there coaching already. A friend of mine killed a 76-year-old man crossing US 1 down in Lawrenceville (She was driving eastbound, as the sun was coming up, and apparently he had dementia), when we were about 22 years old and she was never the same again.
For the reasons I and others have expressed in this thread.
Honestly, nobody who knows me well would ever describe me as a particularly sensitive person. And I would agree with them. But if you really don’t get why some of us question this decision you’ve either never lost anyone you loved dearly or you’re very weak in the human empathy department.
Boeheim didn't lose someone he loved dearly. He hit a guy who was walking in the road late at night. He took Thursday off to deal with his emotions and felt ready to rejoin his team on Friday and coach on Saturday.
I'm sure he's not going about life as if nothing happened. Being with his team is probably helping him cope with the tragedy.
Since you're the king of judging people's "human empathy" how long should Boeheim not Coach? And while he's not coaching what should he be doing?
Should he be at home curled up in the fetal position in his bedroom?
Should he be at home laying on his couch eating a bucket of Haagen-Dazs?
Should he be at church praying for 8 hours a day?
When is it appropriate for him to come back to work?
Boeheim accidentally killed someone. He took a human life and changed a family forever. Does that have to happen to you to understand the gravity of the situation?
1) I would be completely distraught and would need some significant time off from work (and I love my job and a lot of people count on me to do my work).
2) I would have taken at least a game or two away from the spotlight if I was in his position to show respect, and empathy for the family.
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Reading between the lines of the article, it sounds like the family wasn't too happy he coached.
Obviously it's his choice but he created a situation where he looks like the victim with many people cheering him. Not a good luck or feeling for anyone, especially the family.
I didn't feel like it was wrong for him to coach last night. But it definitely felt weird seeing him get a standing ovation for it
I think you entirely miss the point. Who cares what is therapeutic for Boeheim?
While It doesn't matter to me if he coached or not, it felt weird to see the entire arena clapping/cheering so hard for him. He didn't do anything of merit..he killed a guy.
Fifteen years ago, I was working in St. Lawrence county, NY. I was on my way home following a car on US11. I was very close to him trying to pass. He was doing 50 in a 55 and I wanted to go the speed limit. Suddenly a little girl, maybe 12, was on the left side of the road and bolted out in front of the car ahead of me. He hit her with the left side of his car tossing her. She went end over end about about three times onto the side of the road. I swerved to avoid her.
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of that little girl and the guy who hit her. I did go to work the next day. My employer never offered me counseling, but a local agency did when they heard what happened. I refused it. The best thing for me was going right back to work. I can understand why Boeheim did. I am sure it helped him because it does get your mind off what happened if only for a little while, but it always comes back.
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of that little girl and the guy who hit her. I did go to work the next day. My employer never offered me counseling, but a local agency did when they heard what happened. I refused it. The best thing for me was going right back to work. I can understand why Boeheim did. I am sure it helped him because it does get your mind off what happened if only for a little while, but it always comes back.
TDIrish - I’m with you. Everyone deals with difficulty in their own way. I don’t see anything wrong with how he handeled himself in this case.
Agreed, that does seem odd. I don’t think the crowd had any malice though. They were simply supporting their coach.
I don’t know but if someone killed my wife(on purpose or not) and decided to go coach a basketball game where the national media is saying how bad he feels, people giving him standing ovations to show support and his wife is crying I may feel a little upset.
I feel so bad for him that he killed someone. The guy who was killed? Ahh he was just some guy walking on the side of the road. Who cares about him right? Not like he was killed on purpose!!!! He wasn’t a coach at Syracuse!!! ( just so we are clear this paragraph was all sarcasm)
How many of these people show up to the funeral to show their support for the guy who was killed? How many articles are written about this guy without mentioning bowheim? None
All I know is if I killed someone I might take a day or two off especially if I am in the national spotlight.
I feel so bad for him that he killed someone. The guy who was killed? Ahh he was just some guy walking on the side of the road. Who cares about him right? Not like he was killed on purpose!!!! He wasn’t a coach at Syracuse!!! ( just so we are clear this paragraph was all sarcasm)
How many of these people show up to the funeral to show their support for the guy who was killed? How many articles are written about this guy without mentioning bowheim? None
All I know is if I killed someone I might take a day or two off especially if I am in the national spotlight.
Your thoughts, at this time, are misdirected.
The Jiminez family is currently suffering the worst kind of human trauma. This isn’t a case of someone dying of natural causes with pain management or whatever, where his loved ones had an opportunity to mentally prepare themselves for the inevitable and find comfort in one another.
Jiminez’ death was sudden, unexpected, and extremely violent. They are all struggling (in vain) not to think about the fact that their loved one may well have suffered immensely from scores of crushed bones and damaged organs, ultimately succumbing to drowning in his own blood. They of course cling to the hope that a merciful god rendered him immediately unconscious. But they can’t expell the nightmare scenario from their consciousness.
Though they are undoubtedly appreciative that Boeheim did the right thing by immediately calling 911, thus giving their loved one the best possible chance of surviving the accident, they also can’t help but wonder if the accident were preventable on Boeheim’s part. Was he reading a text? Was he driving too fast? Was he otherwise distracted in some way?
These are the thoughts going through the minds of the grieving. The accident happened just three days before last nights game, which means the man isn’t even buried yet. The family would surely draw some measure of solace from the knowledge that Boeheim’s thoughts are with the grieving as the man he accidentally killed is in repose, rather than on a basketball game. IMO he should have taken the night off out of respect for the family.
It was Boeheim's decision if he wanted to coach or not. A tragedy happened but I can not for the life of me see how Boeheim coaching a game (doing his job) is disrespectful to the victim and his family. Is it disrespectful when a player or coach plays or coaches a game right after a loved one dies? As far as we all know, Boeheim didn't do anything wrong. I'm sure this tragedy is eating him up. Maybe doing what is normal for him (coaching a game) is the best therapy.
Why, because he went to work? Coaching Syracuse basketball is his job.
I feel for that family they tragically lost a loved one. I'm sure some of them are so grief-stricken they can't see past planning a funeral.
But why does Boeheim have to not do his job. I can't even believe I'm defending him I don't like Boeheim at all.
You still haven't said how long he should be taking time off for his job nor have you even acknowledge that doing his job, and being surrounded by his players and co-workers may be therapeutic for him and helping him deal with his grief
So far there is no evidence that he did anything wrong. It appears to have been a tragic accident.
Boeheim is a public figure in the spotlight. In Syracuse, a legendary figure. That alone makes this story more about him than about the victim. THAT is the reason he should not have coached. His absence allows the family to focus on what they need to do to grieve without the media distraction of Boeheim coaching a game. As for how long he should lay low? Tough to answer but a good start would be at least until the funeral is over.
Tough one. Really is. No one bats an eye if Boeheim is a barista and goes back to work at Starbucks the next day. Being in a high profile job does make a difference. At the same time, everyone grieves differently and people acutely stricken with grief are not often the most rational thinkers. You could have a relative in particular psychological pain, not thinking clearly, who will tell you that you shouldn't go back to work at all. Some would say the next game. Some would say go back to work. Which ones do you listen to? Where do you draw the line?
I was once in a situation where I decided that acquiescing to the demands of a grieving person would have been the wrong thing to do. (I was grieving as well, but due to relationship with the deceased, not as profoundly devastated as this person was) This person definitely took the opportunity to displace some of that grief into anger. It was a terrible no-win situation.
I was once in a situation where I decided that acquiescing to the demands of a grieving person would have been the wrong thing to do. (I was grieving as well, but due to relationship with the deceased, not as profoundly devastated as this person was) This person definitely took the opportunity to displace some of that grief into anger. It was a terrible no-win situation.
Theraputic for whom? Boeheim?
Nobody need give a shit about Boeheim’s grief right now. And Boeheim should literally be the least concerned about that of anyone. His thoughts should be 100% with the Jiminez family.
There’s a dead person here and a family that has been suddenly, tragically, and violently torn apart. He should give them a minute before they have to watch him on national TV moving on with his life like nothing has even happened.
Personally, if I were Boeheim I would have waited until the Jiminez family had a chance to bury the victim before I returned the coaching sideline. But I think even sitting out last nights big game would have been a smart and fitting gesture.
You can be certain that Boeheim’s appearance on the sideline last night moved several members of the Jiminez family from denial to anger in the stages of grief. That’s how human beings are. And the Jiminez family is moving through those stages on a wild roller coaster.
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