Laxachusetts is a top club. I'm curious how old he is. Kids are getting older and older, and I'm curious how coaches translate guys who are older developing in college. I agree with Cali, taking a kid early probably means he can ball out and is a lacrosse player, not just a top athlete.
As a note, my son is a 2026 and we played the top Laxachusetts a couple of times this summer. We were told by a player on one of their other teams that a kid turned or was turning 17. My kid turned 14 that same June weekend. I have no idea who the kid was or if he was a top player, but no idea how Brian would assess a player like that.
It's also very common now in wrestling. Many clubs encourage repeating 5th or 8th and sometimes both, and even have their own certified homeschooling program at the practice facility, like gymnastics has had for decades.I spoke to my own 14 year old son about reclassing briefly because he sees how common it is in lax and football. On one hand, he is a perfect candidate to reclass physically. He's 6 feet and a hard weight gainer at 140lbs. But he gets great grades and fits in really well socially. In the end, he was just a kid who was very much looking forward to HS and I am so glad we chose not to reclass. Truth be told I could envision a scenario where he would be well ahead of other 8th graders and in his frosh/soph years but as a junior and senior every kid is firmly entrenched in their growth spurt by then so I don't see the benefit being so great. Plus, there are days I truly think we are the rare club family that plays the game just for the fun of it and not to showcase for a college.
I spoke to my own 14 year old son about reclassing briefly because he sees how common it is in lax and football. On one hand, he is a perfect candidate to reclass physically. He's 6 feet and a hard weight gainer at 140lbs. But he gets great grades and fits in really well socially. In the end, he was just a kid who was very much looking forward to HS and I am so glad we chose not to reclass. Truth be told I could envision a scenario where he would be well ahead of other 8th graders and in his frosh/soph years but as a junior and senior every kid is firmly entrenched in their growth spurt by then so I don't see the benefit being so great. Plus, there are days I truly think we are the rare club family that plays the game just for the fun of it and not to showcase for a college.
Yeah since I was born in July, I would've benefitted from being held back a grade and being more physically advanced in school. My parents made a mistake on that one.I was a reclass mostly because I was really young for my grade. Would have graduated at 17. That extra year was really good for me.
I was a reclass mostly because I was really young for my grade. Would have graduated at 17. That extra year was really good for me.
Different sport, but the 2 best players from my high school baseball team PG'ed at Lawrenceville Prep. One of them pitched against us my senior year. The rationale for them was to get into better colleges than what they would have been able to get into after graduating from our high school. One was 6'5" so didn't need more physical development.Given those facts, I'd say your son should not be held back and if necessary 3-4 years down the road be a PG candidate. Deerfield seems to be the school of choice right now for kids that need a slight academic boost for the Ivies but is by no means the only possibility.
Good. Love itMy son squared off at the FO X against a double reclass kid here in Monmouth county during rec season. My son had only been practicing FOs for a few months and was far less imposing than his opponent who looked every bit like a Jr or Sr in HS. I admit that it was one of the highlights of the season for me personally as I watched my lanky son beat his ass to the tune of 80% that day if for no other reason than the kid was 2 years older.
My son is a 2026. As Cali referenced with his OSU example, this kid will be 20/21 when he graduates high school. Holdbacks are fine, it's the 2 time hold back who also started late this is getting ridiculous. And very common. Very, very common.Very common for prep school kids to be a year older. As a '24 that would make him 17.
My son is a 2026. As Cali referenced with his OSU example, this kid will be 20/21 when he graduates high school. Holdbacks are fine, it's the 2 time hold back who also started late this is getting ridiculous. And very common. Very, very common.
And my 14 year old is 5' 1", 95 lbs and hasn't sniffed puberty. My kids (I have a 25 as well) have no desire to hold back. I think they'll be ok in life, just might not be a top college athlete. :)
I doubt there are accurate stats on the reason for holdbacks, but those stats don't seem anywhere near accurate. In my experience, for wrestling, most athletes do it for an athletic advantage to be more mature, stronger, and more skilled. Holdbacks are encouraged to repeat 5th or 8th grade, and sometimes both.Prep school hold backs are usually 75 percent academics and 25 percent athletics. PGs are virtually 100 percent academics. Different than same school holdbacks.
I doubt there are accurate stats on the reason for holdbacks, but those stats don't seem anywhere near accurate. In my experience, for wrestling, most athletes do it for an athletic advantage to be more mature, stronger, and more skilled. Holdbacks are encouraged to repeat 5th or 8th grade, and sometimes both.
You're missing my point. Most, if not all, holdbacks happen before high school and in 5th and/or 8th grade, and they repeat the grade at a parochial school or home school. Kids then enter prep school or other private schools, or re-enter public school afterwards.You can't hold back 5th or 8th grade with prep schools, as almost all are 9th through 12th. And I'm totally confident with the PG number, even for wrestling. I've watched it happen for lacrosse and football for over 50 years. Lower grades is more of a guess.
This, In My experience is not true especially the 8th grade part generally people hold back their kids in kindergarten ( not emotionally ready), 8th grade and as a PG. most PG’s in know were for academic reasons. But, almost every kid I know who did it any other time did it for athletic advantage including kids who repeated their 10 grade year at another prep school. There are lots of ways to do this.You can't hold back 5th or 8th grade with prep schools, as almost all are 9th through 12th. And I'm totally confident with the PG number, even for wrestling. I've watched it happen for lacrosse and football for over 50 years. Lower grades is more of a guess.
So you guys are telling me parents hold back kids and pay for a PG year just to get into college and it has NOTHING to do with playing sports in college????
If a kid doesn’t have the grades then they should go to a junior college to hammer out a few credits and then transfer into the preferred university. Very common here in the Midwest…had average or bad grades, go to community college, figure it out and then transfer into university.
Now if your definition of a PG year is for academics so they can then go play a sport at a school…well then the extra year is still to help them mature physically AND academically. PG is for athletes.
Now again, I get the late birthday hold back before kindergarten. Everything else….
NJ kids repeat 8th grade because NJSIAA rules for public and private schools (not prep schools) limit high school eligibility to 4 consecutive years (8 consecutive semesters) and you can't turn 19 years old before 9/1 of senior year. They repeat 5th grade for similar reasons before entering middle school. And yes many also start kindergarten a year late. Some end up having to leave NJ after sophomore or junior year and go to PA or a prep school, because they aged out...I repeated 9th grade. Most kids I knew back then who were held back did it then too. I transferred schools so it was mostly for academic reasons. The athletic side was a big benefit at the end of the day. Big difference between graduating at 17 and 18.
I would agree that it is about better opportunities but there is a player at Rutgers right now who PG'd solely due to academics, he had other D-1 offers (not Rutgers) but his parents had the means so they sent him to a PG year where he got his academic straightened out and also benefitted from a more focused weight training program at the school and another year of growth and development. My own son looked seriously at a PG year and that would have been exclusively for athletic advantage. Ultimately, he chose to forgo that and go to college and play at a lower level, where he is incredibly happy and plays on a very talented D3 team (final four team last year).So you guys are telling me parents hold back kids and pay for a PG year just to get into college and it has NOTHING to do with playing sports in college????
If a kid doesn’t have the grades then they should go to a junior college to hammer out a few credits and then transfer into the preferred university. Very common here in the Midwest…had average or bad grades, go to community college, figure it out and then transfer into university.
Now if your definition of a PG year is for academics so they can then go play a sport at a school…well then the extra year is still to help them mature physically AND academically. PG is for athletes.
Now again, I get the late birthday hold back before kindergarten and even a few exceptions….but when you have a club team of 20 kids and 15 of them are hold backs or re-class, your not gonna sell me on the academic reasoning…but again that’s just me
@rufamilyI would agree that it is about better opportunities but there is a player at Rutgers right now who PG'd solely due to academics, he had other D-1 offers (not Rutgers) but his parents had the means so they sent him to a PG year where he got his academic straightened out and also benefitted from a more focused weight training program at the school and another year of growth and development. My own son looked seriously at a PG year and that would have been exclusively for athletic advantage. Ultimately, he chose to forgo that and go to college and play at a lower level, where he is incredibly happy and plays on a very talented D3 team (final four team last year).
the issue is the kids who maybe are in 8th grade or freshman and have not really hit puberty yet, most people I know who did that, did it for athletic advantage.
Thanks, Matt, I hope that Brennan is crushing life as he is simply a great kid, and also hope that Joey is fully healthy and has a great season with the Greyhounds. If every kid has the college experience that my son is having we would all be very lucky parents. I really feel that this is where a lot of club teams fail their players as they push them into situations that are not great for the kid but good for the program@rufamily
Hope you are well and glad to hear about your son. That is great news and glad he’s found a great home and the right fit. Continued best wishes to him…
ThisGreat points made. The early holdback in kindergarten is predominantly boys and predominantly a school readiness issue. The eighth grade holdback is also for boys and overwhelmingly for athletic reasons. In fact, the parents I have met are either transparent that it is 100% for athletics or will try to persuade you the kids academics play a role but in reality, it doesn't and is just used as a reason. I'm right in the middle of this topic since I coached youth football and lax and my son is in 9th grade. On one hand, I understand so very well that athletics can mean better education opportunities for kids in college but unfortunately I see the vast majority of kids reclassing because daddy thinks his boy will reach the highest levels of the sport.
Great points made. The early holdback in kindergarten is predominantly boys and predominantly a school readiness issue. The eighth grade holdback is also for boys and overwhelmingly for athletic reasons. In fact, the parents I have met are either transparent that it is 100% for athletics or will try to persuade you the kids academics play a role but in reality, it doesn't and is just used as a reason. I'm right in the middle of this topic since I coached youth football and lax and my son is in 9th grade. On one hand, I understand so very well that athletics can mean better education opportunities for kids in college but unfortunately I see the vast majority of kids reclassing because daddy thinks his boy will reach the highest levels of the sport.
Great points made. The early holdback in kindergarten is predominantly boys and predominantly a school readiness issue. The eighth grade holdback is also for boys and overwhelmingly for athletic reasons. In fact, the parents I have met are either transparent that it is 100% for athletics or will try to persuade you the kids academics play a role but in reality, it doesn't and is just used as a reason. I'm right in the middle of this topic since I coached youth football and lax and my son is in 9th grade. On one hand, I understand so very well that athletics can mean better education opportunities for kids in college but unfortunately I see the vast majority of kids reclassing because daddy thinks his boy will reach the highest levels of the sport.
Not familiar. In fact, the only kid on the Delbarton roster I try to check up on from time to time is a Howell kid my son played with briefly in REC. He is a soph goalie there named Tanner Shimko. Great kid, tremendous athlete and plays with an edge in the cage.Speaking of PGs, I wonder if you or @rufamily remember a Delbarton '21 named Max LaTorre. He PGed last year at Salisbury and is one on Dartmouth's top incoming '22s .
And @bigmatt718 Peter Rizzotti found a way to get a 5th year in Hanover so there was no transfer. As the '20 season was cancelled before the spring quarter (not semester) started he probably didn't enroll and is 1 quarter short of his undergrad degree. And it's not like Rutgers needs a LSM.
I remember Max he is a good player, but I would assume the PG year had more to do with him getting the grades to get into Dartmouth vs. Loyola, which I believe is where he was initially committed to playing lacrosse.Speaking of PGs, I wonder if you or @rufamily remember a Delbarton '21 named Max LaTorre. He PGed last year at Salisbury and is one on Dartmouth's top incoming '22s .
And @bigmatt718 Peter Rizzotti found a way to get a 5th year in Hanover so there was no transfer. As the '20 season was cancelled before the spring quarter (not semester) started he probably didn't enroll and is 1 quarter short of his undergrad degree. And it's not like Rutgers needs a LSM.
I remember Max he is a good player, but I would assume the PG year had more to do with him getting the grades to get into Dartmouth vs. Loyola, which I believe is where he was initially committed to playing lacrosse.