I sort of understand both sides- when I was younger and looking- I really was excited about going anywhere but local. Just wanted to experience something new.
And so many NJ families have either come here from somewhere else or just plain look down at Rutgers for strange reason.
On the positive side, when our son was looking, at first, he seemed to like the idea of getting away, until he OV’d down south and realized he had nothing in common with the other players. And then, he just knew he wanted to stay home.
As a player parent it is sort of similar. You may say your son is playing at Rutgers and friends and co workers are quick with “he didn’t get offers from Florida or PSU???”
But as a parent the reality should always be there of…your kid is playing a violent sport. Any given game, he could be sent to the hospital- if he is local, you will be there with him within the hour. If he is playing in Michigan, he is going to be alone for 24-48 hours before you can get there.