The story of Lady Gray

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"At more than 250 years old, Rutgers has a rich history of discovery, culture, innovation and achievement – but, as one of America’s oldest colonial colleges, there’s bound to be spooky folklore that follows.
Founding father Alexander Hamilton plays a prominent role in one of Rutgers' most infamous legends: the story of Lady Gray who haunts the iconic Old Queens building on the College Avenue campus
She is believed to be the ghost of Catherine Livingston, who supposedly had an affair with Alexander Hamilton during the Revolutionary War while he was stationed near New Brunswick – as suggested by a series of letters exchanged between the two. When Hamilton left for battle, he told Lady Gray he would return for her and never did.
To this day, she sits in the bell tower of Old Queens, staring longingly at the Raritan, awaiting his return."

 

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"At more than 250 years old, Rutgers has a rich history of discovery, culture, innovation and achievement – but, as one of America’s oldest colonial colleges, there’s bound to be spooky folklore that follows.
Founding father Alexander Hamilton plays a prominent role in one of Rutgers' most infamous legends: the story of Lady Gray who haunts the iconic Old Queens building on the College Avenue campus
She is believed to be the ghost of Catherine Livingston, who supposedly had an affair with Alexander Hamilton during the Revolutionary War while he was stationed near New Brunswick – as suggested by a series of letters exchanged between the two. When Hamilton left for battle, he told Lady Gray he would return for her and never did.
To this day, she sits in the bell tower of Old Queens, staring longingly at the Raritan, awaiting his return."

The sources mostly say her name was "Catharine." Here is a letter that Hamilton wrote to her. Kitty, as she was often called, was the daughter of William Livingston, the governor of NJ during the Revolutionary War. The Livingston family was *very* prominent in New York and New Jersey politics in the 18th century. https://founders.archives.gov/documents/Hamilton/01-01-02-0128 She and her two older sisters were known as "the three graces."http://inthewordsofwomen.com/?cat=295

 

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BTW, she did marry in 1787. So she got over Hamilton. He married a rich and socially prominent woman and cheated on her with a married woman (whose husband blackmailed him!) So Catharine dodged a bullet! https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/alexander-hamiltons-adultery-and-apology-18021947/