After talking it over with my family, I have decided the best thing for me would be to reopen my Christmas plans - I am no longer committed to going to my in-laws. Thank you to my wife who is a great recruiter. But I'm staying home baby!
I'm still committed to my girlfriend, but I will be taking all of my visits before I officially sign on ML (marriage license) day. If there was an earlier signing period I may have caved sooner, but after some thought, I think this for the best and a once in a lifetime opportunity.