Is there a more ignorant statement a person can make than"Every school is the same"? It would be far closer to the truth to say that every school is close to unique in the way it handles its players, since every school is run by a different combination of individuals, each with their own specific set of ethics and way of doing things.
Try any profession. There is going to be a broad spectrum of behavior, from the few on one end who try to do everything the right way to the people on the other end of the spectrum who see cheating as much as possible as the main road to success. The vast majority will fall in the middle, but rarely with 2 do things exactly the same.
We have seen time after time articles about our head coach and his way of doing things. Unless all the authors of these stories are completely making up what they write, one of our head coach's principal strengths seems to be his empathy for his players and his efforts to do right by them in whatever he does. You would have us believe he treats his players no differently than Harbaugh, someone who seems to have stepped on more than a few toes along the way.
That just makes me believe you are always trying to paint our coach in as bad a light as possible.
I don't know how ethical Harbaugh is. Some of the stories could well be exaggerated by those who do not like what he has done. It seems likely however that our coach is closer to the "good guy" end of the spectrum than Harbaugh, or his players would not respect him so much. I would venture to say our coach is close to being one of the most empathetic coaches out there, but I really have no idea who else would have his kind of reputation.
Of course, he is not perfect in his relations with the young people. No one is. The key is that he has their best interests at heart, and I can guarantee you there are lots of guys out there who do not.
Feel free to discuss your perception of our coach's weaknesses and whether they will hinder our team's quest for success. However his relationship with his players is not one of them, no matter how hard you try to gloss it over. It is one of his strengths.