OT: Wedding problem

[ru78]

Better yet complain of chest pains after having a hardy meal of spicey foods

 

[GoodOl'Rutgers]

OMG... it is 3 pages now (in my browser).

Can the OP tell us where this stands now?

My initial thought would be to ask the bride to imagine that she is the other step daughter in this situation. What would SHE, as the other stepdaughter, want to be asked by the bride? To wear the family color, to be given the option of wearing the family color.. there is probably room there to have the bride give the stepsister the option, knowing that she will likely prefer to wear her own clothes. Then everyone gets what they want.. the bride shows consideration of the stepsister, the stepsister feels valued and respected.. the wife does too.. and the color scheme meets the groom's approval.

Now.. what color are the balloons? :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:

 

[LocalDC]

I will speak to my daughter and let her know that I expect her to invite the step sister to wear the same color
makes the most sense to me at this point
thanks for input

 

[RUtix4me]

I need an org chart, or flow chart in this one. So bottom line is there are team uniforms?

 

[mildone]

I will speak to my daughter and let her know that I expect her to invite the step sister to wear the same color
makes the most sense to me at this point
thanks for input

It's not too late to just sell them all off for a profit.

 

[czxqa]

Am I the only one wondering why someone would come to this particular message-board in order to help resolve an argument?

No, this is abuse. Arguments is next door...

 

[DJ Spanky]

No, this is abuse. Arguments is next door...

 

[SkilletHead2]

I will speak to my daughter and let her know that I expect her to invite the step sister to wear the same color
makes the most sense to me at this point
thanks for input

DC, I agree with that move. I'm assuming you're picking up a bunch of the tab here, and who on earth does it hurt if the girl gets to feel part of the family?

My niece got married a number of years ago and in her wedding invitation (to everyone), she said, "If you would like to be part of the wedding, we will find a role for you to play. If you'd like to be a bridesmaid or a groomsman, we would love to have you do so. You can wear whatever you feel is appropriate." So, my wife and I did readings, girls who had never gotten to be a bridesmaid before in their lives got to be bridesmaids, a bunch of little kids got to be honorary ring bearers and flower girls, and it all worked great. In fact, have to say it was the nicest wedding I've ever been to in my life, and I have been to some amazing weddings. Everybody was really happy. They had about 8 different kinds of wedding cake because people like different stuff. They held it at the Columbus Zoo (really!) and the zoo brought out all sorts of really cool animals that you could pet (baby snow leopard, e.g.). To me, the point is that a wedding is a real opportunity to bring folks together, not find ways to separate them.

 

[GoodOl'Rutgers]

I will speak to my daughter and let her know that I expect her to invite the step sister to wear the same color
makes the most sense to me at this point
thanks for input

Tell, I mean "ask" or "suggest", her to give her the stepsister option.. to invite her to wear the family color but tell her she is not demanding it or requiring it.. it is a finesse move that might result in everyone getting exactly what they want

 

[Scarlet Jerry]

A wise priest once told my wife and I the following info before we got married:

1. The wedding ceremony belongs to the couple.
2. The honeymoon belongs to the couple.
3. The wedding RECEPTION has shared ownership and belongs to many people, including the parents, guests, and the respective families.

This simple idea is enlightening to many brides, who think that the whole day is about them. Understanding that the bride (and groom) have full say over two of the three wedding related "events" helps keep everything in perspective and makes them understand that compromise is needed when planning the wedding ceremony.

-Scarlet Jerry

 

[ru78]

A wise priest once told my wife and I the following info before we got married:

1. The wedding ceremony belongs to the couple.
2. The honeymoon belongs to the couple.
3. The wedding RECEPTION has shared ownership and belongs to many people, including the parents, guests, and the respective families.

This simple idea is enlightening to many brides, who think that the whole day is about them. Understanding that the bride (and groom) have full say over two of the three wedding related "events" helps keep everything in perspective and makes them understand that compromise is needed when planning the wedding ceremony.

-Scarlet Jerry

Also, should be added that money is ours and not yours
Along with you make money than I do
She gets a job and then becomes my money and no reason to share since you make more than me

 

[RBS05]

A wise priest once told my wife and I the following info before we got married:

1. The wedding ceremony belongs to the couple.
2. The honeymoon belongs to the couple.
3. The wedding RECEPTION has shared ownership and belongs to many people, including the parents, guests, and the respective families.

This simple idea is enlightening to many brides, who think that the whole day is about them. Understanding that the bride (and groom) have full say over two of the three wedding related "events" helps keep everything in perspective and makes them understand that compromise is needed when planning the wedding ceremony.

-Scarlet Jerry

Opening up the reception like that in #3 to the parents, family etc is how fights over co-workers' spouses and great aunt's boyfriends and second cousins who haven't been seen in a decade start.

Better to live by the rule "don't be an asshole". That applies to brides too.

 

[RutgersTwice]

Wear red to the game.

 

[ru78]

Agree unless she is a PSU grad then wear black

 

[RU205]

When is the wedding?

Not sure if it was mentioned earlier and I missed it.

 

[Colonel Henry]

It sounds like the bride and/or groom have a propentisy for drama and pettyness on what is supposed to be a happy day.

What colors will the lawyers wear at the divorce proceedings?