Wow she was a trooper. Tough lady seeing the last picture. I'm sorry for your loss, it's not easy. My parents still appear in my dreams once in a while and they have been gone a long time now.
Rutgers has lost a true Scarlet Knight, Mom has passed away.,
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I'm very sorry for your loss Bac. Having lost both parents, it's an unhappy club to join but they never really leave you. I am happy for you and Rock that you were able to enjoy this past hoops season at the RAC with her. The season didn't end the way all of us would have liked, but it was a blast at the RAC and I'm happy she was able to see that team and enjoy the ride. You and your family are in my prayers.
I love your tribute to your mom and appreciate you giving your brother credit for all he did for her. You were a good son. Best wishes to you and yours.
BAC, My condolences to you and your brother. .Just as your basketball recaps have done for years, you gave a complete picture of your loving Mom and her Rutgers fandom. On the basketball board, I consider us family and you have my sincere condolences. Glad your Mom got to experience Pike and the team this year as well as her love for Douby. Remember she will always be there spiritually with you at future games. Prayers for you and your family.Betty passed Sunday night at her home surrounded by our family just 10 days before her 84th birthday. This was NOT Coronavirus related. Mom returned home after a hospital stay and took a turn for the worse quickly.:cry:
Mom and my brother Rocktherac were inseperable at RU events over the past 25 years. She lived and breathed Rutgers in her later years.
Mom started going to Rutgers games back in the 80s with my Dad as part of the Giants Stadium college football package which had the Kickoff Classic, a RU game or two and maybe another game thrown in. We were raised on high school games and college football on Saturday so all day the radio was tuned into WCTC listening to Football USA with Bruce Johnson and Jennifer Kushinka. Every Saturday was hamburger and fries night listening to scores to keep track of the picks in the Somerset Messenger Gazette Contest where my brother Rock and I would make picks for the entire family. One time my mom even won and they sent a photo crew to take her pic for the paper. I think the prize was $25
I was at RU from 88-93 so I was going to games but at some point in the early 90s my brother Rocktherac started taking her to basketball games and got season tickets starting in 94. I had tickets of my own on the other side seperate from them but would join them for the games down at the Palestra for the A10 tourney and the infamous 2nd half continuation on the UMass game at the Spectrum. Not alot of winning in football and basketball was going down the tubes but Mom still loved going and after my Dad passed in 1998 that really kept her going. She would come home and put on Neil Solondz on Knightcap on WCTC and listen to Skip and Mark lament why can't Rutgers win.
She loved going with my brother and his then wife to the Bannon Show and later the Waters show at the Hyatt. She was a huge fan of Quincy Douby and has his pic right on her desk in her tv room. As the program sputtered she would always say...."This team needs Douby"...she was right! Mom was there at the Eric LeGrand game at Met Life and she became a big fan of his after his injury always talking about his progress and what he was doing or if he was on television. In fact the day before she went to the hospital, she was watching Eric on the Virtual Fanfest on Youtube.
My mom had a bad fall in 2007 that left her in a coma like state for almost a week with a brain bleed but one of the first questions we asked when she started to come to was "Who is the Rutgers football coach"...Mom softly spoke.."Schiano". She would wear her #27 Ray Rice jersey in the rehab facility. It was a rough road back for her and she missed football and the basketball season for 2 years but she was iron tough and she made it back to going to every hoops and football game in 2009and beyond. Made it to her first and only bowl game at the Pinstripe Bowl vs Iowa State.
Mom got the Star Ledger and Courier News, she would cut out all the Rutgers articles, organize, clip them together and then put in a bag for me to pick up and read. Even though I usually would have already read the article a day or two later, I would always pick them up when she called and said, "I have some cut outs for you". It was a great way to keep her mind busy.
Got to give my brother Rocktherac alot of credit as he was tasked with taking her to the games and as the years went on Mom had to use a walker to get to the stadium and to the RAC but there was no way she was going to miss a game...rain, snow, cold, she didnt care. There was no discussion about not going...no way. Her and Rock stayed to the end of games not matter how bad they got, she wouldnt even think of bailing early. Only the past 2 years did she actually start to throw in the towel and want to bolt with how awful Chris Ash was
Mom's favorite thing though was seeing the Scarlet Knight horse video and watching the white horse charge out onto the field. She would often be caught with tears in her eyes saying "I love that horse". She would take many pics with him and in fact had a blanket made up of pics of the horse and a t shirt with the horse. One time there was a little girl saying..."look that lady is wearing a shirt with a pic of her with the horse and she is getting her picture taken with the horse!" lol
Mom would often blame RU losses on the refs, which of course in typical Bac fashion I would say...."its not the refs". With the losses piling up under Eddie Jordan, she would say...."Rutgers never should have joined the Big 10"...at that point it was hard to argue with her...lol
Although the cancellation of the NCAA tourney prevented Mom from seeing RU in the Big Dance, she got to experience the big win and celebration over Maryland as the last RU game she attended. She got to see RU win 18 times this year and that was so nice for her to experience after all the losing for so long. She liked Pike. She even came around to the idea of Greg Schiano coming back to coach at Rutgers after souring on him after he bolted to the NFL.
I know several board members always came up and said "Hi" to Mom and she truly enjoyed those little moments with other fans and those little meetings on the way out of the RAC which went from "ugh we need to fire this coach" to happy faces and smiles in the Pikiell era. All of the ticket takers were so nice to Mom in the last couple of years as she entered the RAC and her face would just light up upon entering. She made friends with the guy in charge of the handicap section I think his name was James who did a yeomans job trying to work out the logistics for her in that section. Rock will tell you he always had an adventure with her each game especially this season.
It will not be the same for me and especially for Rocktherac entering the RAC or the stadium with Mom as she has been a mainstay of our thoughts for over nearly 30 years at these games but the memory of her love for all things Rutgers will always be strong. Mom will be wearing a nice Rutgers long sleeve shirt for her funeral. She would not have it any other way.
(and in typical Bac fashion, I cannot keep anything short)
RIP MOM!
A very lovely lady. I am sure that she will be missed by more than just family.Condolences to you and yours.Betty passed Sunday night at her home surrounded by our family just 10 days before her 84th birthday. This was NOT Coronavirus related. Mom returned home after a hospital stay and took a turn for the worse quickly.:cry:
Mom and my brother Rocktherac were inseperable at RU events over the past 25 years. She lived and breathed Rutgers in her later years.
Mom started going to Rutgers games back in the 80s with my Dad as part of the Giants Stadium college football package which had the Kickoff Classic, a RU game or two and maybe another game thrown in. We were raised on high school games and college football on Saturday so all day the radio was tuned into WCTC listening to Football USA with Bruce Johnson and Jennifer Kushinka. Every Saturday was hamburger and fries night listening to scores to keep track of the picks in the Somerset Messenger Gazette Contest where my brother Rock and I would make picks for the entire family. One time my mom even won and they sent a photo crew to take her pic for the paper. I think the prize was $25
I was at RU from 88-93 so I was going to games but at some point in the early 90s my brother Rocktherac started taking her to basketball games and got season tickets starting in 94. I had tickets of my own on the other side seperate from them but would join them for the games down at the Palestra for the A10 tourney and the infamous 2nd half continuation on the UMass game at the Spectrum. Not alot of winning in football and basketball was going down the tubes but Mom still loved going and after my Dad passed in 1998 that really kept her going. She would come home and put on Neil Solondz on Knightcap on WCTC and listen to Skip and Mark lament why can't Rutgers win.
She loved going with my brother and his then wife to the Bannon Show and later the Waters show at the Hyatt. She was a huge fan of Quincy Douby and has his pic right on her desk in her tv room. As the program sputtered she would always say...."This team needs Douby"...she was right! Mom was there at the Eric LeGrand game at Met Life and she became a big fan of his after his injury always talking about his progress and what he was doing or if he was on television. In fact the day before she went to the hospital, she was watching Eric on the Virtual Fanfest on Youtube.
My mom had a bad fall in 2007 that left her in a coma like state for almost a week with a brain bleed but one of the first questions we asked when she started to come to was "Who is the Rutgers football coach"...Mom softly spoke.."Schiano". She would wear her #27 Ray Rice jersey in the rehab facility. It was a rough road back for her and she missed football and the basketball season for 2 years but she was iron tough and she made it back to going to every hoops and football game in 2009and beyond. Made it to her first and only bowl game at the Pinstripe Bowl vs Iowa State.
Mom got the Star Ledger and Courier News, she would cut out all the Rutgers articles, organize, clip them together and then put in a bag for me to pick up and read. Even though I usually would have already read the article a day or two later, I would always pick them up when she called and said, "I have some cut outs for you". It was a great way to keep her mind busy.
Got to give my brother Rocktherac alot of credit as he was tasked with taking her to the games and as the years went on Mom had to use a walker to get to the stadium and to the RAC but there was no way she was going to miss a game...rain, snow, cold, she didnt care. There was no discussion about not going...no way. Her and Rock stayed to the end of games not matter how bad they got, she wouldnt even think of bailing early. Only the past 2 years did she actually start to throw in the towel and want to bolt with how awful Chris Ash was
Mom's favorite thing though was seeing the Scarlet Knight horse video and watching the white horse charge out onto the field. She would often be caught with tears in her eyes saying "I love that horse". She would take many pics with him and in fact had a blanket made up of pics of the horse and a t shirt with the horse. One time there was a little girl saying..."look that lady is wearing a shirt with a pic of her with the horse and she is getting her picture taken with the horse!" lol
Mom would often blame RU losses on the refs, which of course in typical Bac fashion I would say...."its not the refs". With the losses piling up under Eddie Jordan, she would say...."Rutgers never should have joined the Big 10"...at that point it was hard to argue with her...lol
Although the cancellation of the NCAA tourney prevented Mom from seeing RU in the Big Dance, she got to experience the big win and celebration over Maryland as the last RU game she attended. She got to see RU win 18 times this year and that was so nice for her to experience after all the losing for so long. She liked Pike. She even came around to the idea of Greg Schiano coming back to coach at Rutgers after souring on him after he bolted to the NFL.
I know several board members always came up and said "Hi" to Mom and she truly enjoyed those little moments with other fans and those little meetings on the way out of the RAC which went from "ugh we need to fire this coach" to happy faces and smiles in the Pikiell era. All of the ticket takers were so nice to Mom in the last couple of years as she entered the RAC and her face would just light up upon entering. She made friends with the guy in charge of the handicap section I think his name was James who did a yeomans job trying to work out the logistics for her in that section. Rock will tell you he always had an adventure with her each game especially this season.
It will not be the same for me and especially for Rocktherac entering the RAC or the stadium with Mom as she has been a mainstay of our thoughts for over nearly 30 years at these games but the memory of her love for all things Rutgers will always be strong. Mom will be wearing a nice Rutgers long sleeve shirt for her funeral. She would not have it any other way.
(and in typical Bac fashion, I cannot keep anything short)
RIP MOM!
I'm so sorry for your loss, bac. I hope you find peace in this difficult time.
Bac,
So sorry for the loss of your mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your brother.
Groz
So sorry for the loss of your mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your brother.
Groz
So sorry BAC. Wonderful Tribute.
She was right about the refs! ;-)
She was right about the refs! ;-)
Sincere condolences to you both and your family and friends.
Never easy to lose a parent, no matter the age. Hopefully she had a peaceful passing and take solace in the fact she's in a better place.
So sorry for your loss. I love the horse and horse video too.
Bac, what a heartfelt post. One special lady and loyal RU fan to boot.
Condolences to you, Rock and the rest of your family.
RIP Betty.
Condolences to you, Rock and the rest of your family.
RIP Betty.
Thank you all for the kind words. My Mom was a real trooper. Always was waiting anxiously in the kitchen for me to pick her up on game day in full RU gear....even her socks. She will sorely be missed .
Sincere sympathy on your loss. Losing a parent is hard under any circumstances. Losing a parent under these circumstances is brutal.
So very sorry for your loss, Bac! She seemed like an awesome Mom who bled Scarlet!
I just saw this now. So sorry for your loss, guys. It's terrible losing a parent. Please accept my deepest condolences and know you guys will be in our prayers.
Betty passed Sunday night at her home surrounded by our family just 10 days before her 84th birthday. This was NOT Coronavirus related. Mom returned home after a hospital stay and took a turn for the worse quickly.:cry:
Mom and my brother Rocktherac were inseperable at RU events over the past 25 years. She lived and breathed Rutgers in her later years.
Mom started going to Rutgers games back in the 80s with my Dad as part of the Giants Stadium college football package which had the Kickoff Classic, a RU game or two and maybe another game thrown in. We were raised on high school games and college football on Saturday so all day the radio was tuned into WCTC listening to Football USA with Bruce Johnson and Jennifer Kushinka. Every Saturday was hamburger and fries night listening to scores to keep track of the picks in the Somerset Messenger Gazette Contest where my brother Rock and I would make picks for the entire family. One time my mom even won and they sent a photo crew to take her pic for the paper. I think the prize was $25
I was at RU from 88-93 so I was going to games but at some point in the early 90s my brother Rocktherac started taking her to basketball games and got season tickets starting in 94. I had tickets of my own on the other side seperate from them but would join them for the games down at the Palestra for the A10 tourney and the infamous 2nd half continuation on the UMass game at the Spectrum. Not alot of winning in football and basketball was going down the tubes but Mom still loved going and after my Dad passed in 1998 that really kept her going. She would come home and put on Neil Solondz on Knightcap on WCTC and listen to Skip and Mark lament why can't Rutgers win.
She loved going with my brother and his then wife to the Bannon Show and later the Waters show at the Hyatt. She was a huge fan of Quincy Douby and has his pic right on her desk in her tv room. As the program sputtered she would always say...."This team needs Douby"...she was right! Mom was there at the Eric LeGrand game at Met Life and she became a big fan of his after his injury always talking about his progress and what he was doing or if he was on television. In fact the day before she went to the hospital, she was watching Eric on the Virtual Fanfest on Youtube.
My mom had a bad fall in 2007 that left her in a coma like state for almost a week with a brain bleed but one of the first questions we asked when she started to come to was "Who is the Rutgers football coach"...Mom softly spoke.."Schiano". She would wear her #27 Ray Rice jersey in the rehab facility. It was a rough road back for her and she missed football and the basketball season for 2 years but she was iron tough and she made it back to going to every hoops and football game in 2009and beyond. Made it to her first and only bowl game at the Pinstripe Bowl vs Iowa State.
Mom got the Star Ledger and Courier News, she would cut out all the Rutgers articles, organize, clip them together and then put in a bag for me to pick up and read. Even though I usually would have already read the article a day or two later, I would always pick them up when she called and said, "I have some cut outs for you". It was a great way to keep her mind busy.
Got to give my brother Rocktherac alot of credit as he was tasked with taking her to the games and as the years went on Mom had to use a walker to get to the stadium and to the RAC but there was no way she was going to miss a game...rain, snow, cold, she didnt care. There was no discussion about not going...no way. Her and Rock stayed to the end of games not matter how bad they got, she wouldnt even think of bailing early. Only the past 2 years did she actually start to throw in the towel and want to bolt with how awful Chris Ash was
Mom's favorite thing though was seeing the Scarlet Knight horse video and watching the white horse charge out onto the field. She would often be caught with tears in her eyes saying "I love that horse". She would take many pics with him and in fact had a blanket made up of pics of the horse and a t shirt with the horse. One time there was a little girl saying..."look that lady is wearing a shirt with a pic of her with the horse and she is getting her picture taken with the horse!" lol
Mom would often blame RU losses on the refs, which of course in typical Bac fashion I would say...."its not the refs". With the losses piling up under Eddie Jordan, she would say...."Rutgers never should have joined the Big 10"...at that point it was hard to argue with her...lol
Although the cancellation of the NCAA tourney prevented Mom from seeing RU in the Big Dance, she got to experience the big win and celebration over Maryland as the last RU game she attended. She got to see RU win 18 times this year and that was so nice for her to experience after all the losing for so long. She liked Pike. She even came around to the idea of Greg Schiano coming back to coach at Rutgers after souring on him after he bolted to the NFL.
I know several board members always came up and said "Hi" to Mom and she truly enjoyed those little moments with other fans and those little meetings on the way out of the RAC which went from "ugh we need to fire this coach" to happy faces and smiles in the Pikiell era. All of the ticket takers were so nice to Mom in the last couple of years as she entered the RAC and her face would just light up upon entering. She made friends with the guy in charge of the handicap section I think his name was James who did a yeomans job trying to work out the logistics for her in that section. Rock will tell you he always had an adventure with her each game especially this season.
It will not be the same for me and especially for Rocktherac entering the RAC or the stadium with Mom as she has been a mainstay of our thoughts for over nearly 30 years at these games but the memory of her love for all things Rutgers will always be strong. Mom will be wearing a nice Rutgers long sleeve shirt for her funeral. She would not have it any other way.
(and in typical Bac fashion, I cannot keep anything short)
RIP MOM!
So sorry for your loss and Rock's too. Sounds like an incredible lady and awesome RU fan! Too bad I didn't get to meet her when we chatted after the big Maryland win. As you probably know, my mom died a month ago (also not COVID) from cancer in FL and I couldn't even go see her, so I feel your pain.
Being one of "those guys" was the highlight of attending games at the RAC during RU's uncompetitive seasons... and there were plenty of them as we know. I loved how she would always say we need Douby back. :)
Rock and bac, my heart aches for you. Please accept my deepest condolences. Losing a loved one at this time, not being able to provide a proper farewell makes her passing even more difficult. I will miss seeing your mother more than you know. :cry:
I am so sorry for your loss. Love your mom's spunk. I hope my sons take me to games down the road. Hoping she helps expedite some heavenly intervention for RU sports. May she rest in peace.
Sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.
What great memories!
blessings to her and your entire family.
blessings to her and your entire family.
A lovely tribute by you of your Mom. She must have been a truly fine person... My condolences to you and your family and may she rest in peace.
Very sorry for your loss BAC and Rock. May your mother Rest In Peace.
Thank you to all who have posted here and offered their prayers and condolances. I read each and every one of them and my brother and I truly appreciate the kind words and thoughts
We had the wake/funeral on Thursday and we were able to have a decent crowd of maybe 40 at peak which was larger than we were expecting. Mom was wearing a nice Rutgers long sleeve shirt and the Minister led an RU cheer that she would have enjoyed.
We had the wake/funeral on Thursday and we were able to have a decent crowd of maybe 40 at peak which was larger than we were expecting. Mom was wearing a nice Rutgers long sleeve shirt and the Minister led an RU cheer that she would have enjoyed.
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Thank you Phil...you were always so kind to my mom at the games...the whole bunch of "those guys you talk to at the games" were too.
doing okay, it was a whirlwind week and everything happened so fast and still had to work but now its good to just relax and let the mind refuel and recharge
Wish you the best. Get the grill going and cook some ShopRite Lobro Monday. Your mom's life was special but so is yours. Celebrate life. Both yours and hers. And never feel guilty about enjoying life without her. She wouldn't want you to do that at all. That is the beauty of mothers.
I just saw this...
Really sorry for your loss...to both you and your brother.
Really sorry for your loss...to both you and your brother.
Bac and Rock,
So sorry to hear about the passing of your Mom. She was a wonderful lady and a great RU fan, and I wish I could have known her. Glad she got to experience the 18 wins at the RAC this season under Coach Pike. I'm sure she enjoyed them all. You have many precious memories of her to last forever and your love for her will also last forever. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys, and your Mom, and your families. May your Mom Rest in Peace!
So sorry to hear about the passing of your Mom. She was a wonderful lady and a great RU fan, and I wish I could have known her. Glad she got to experience the 18 wins at the RAC this season under Coach Pike. I'm sure she enjoyed them all. You have many precious memories of her to last forever and your love for her will also last forever. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys, and your Mom, and your families. May your Mom Rest in Peace!
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