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Gay ex-Rutgers college football player says stress of staying in the closet forced him to retire

EDIT.. here is a linky to my current thought on this topic which is basically the opposite of what I originally thought.. which I keep below for completeness

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Wait a sec here.. "medically retired".. does that mean he was a long-snapper for one season.. and keeps his scholarship money because he "medically retired"? Was he a schollie player?

He's a YouTuber the story says.. so this is all for views, right?

5-star long-snapper scholarship to Rutgers

OMG.. he played us. He was in the closet for not wanting to play football in college too!
 
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Kudos to coach Schiano for the support that he gave him...

Eldridge also praised Rutgers head coach Greg Schiano for providing support after he told him he was gay. “He was the most understanding and accepting person. It made me feel so safe and respected and valued,” he said.
 
Wait a sec here.. "medically retired".. does that mean he was a long-snapper for one season.. and keeps his scholarship money because he "medically retired"? Was he a schollie player?

He's a YouTuber the story says.. so this is all for views, right?

5-star long-snapper scholarship to Rutgers

OMG.. he played us. He was in the closet for not wanting to play football in college too!
I think you can keep your scholarship if medical retirement is approved by the NCAA. But I can't tell from the story whether he's still at Rutgers. Granted, I didn't delve into it too deeply.
 
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lol you can't make this up. As if anyone in history wasn't able to succeed in FAR more stressful and rigorous endeavors but this guy says the stress so he medically retires. unreal and the approving doctor should lose his license. sounds like the kid is a headcase which I guess is almost par for the course here
 
lol you can't make this up. As if anyone in history wasn't able to succeed in FAR more stressful and rigorous endeavors but this guy says the stress so he medically retires. unreal and the approving doctor should lose his license. sounds like the kid is a headcase which I guess is almost par for the course here

This is such an old man yells at clouds take. "Others have had it worse therefore this kid shouldn't have stepped away!!" No need to compare it to anything else. He did what he felt was best for him and that is okay. You don't have to get so worked up over it.
 
Medically retired for colitis, stress doesn't cause it but can make the symptoms worse. Seems like the retirement is valid.
This. He had a chronic medical condition - what may or may not have exacerbated it doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t wish colitis on anyone let alone someone trying to play football at one of the highest competitive levels.
 
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This is such an old man yells at clouds take. "Others have had it worse therefore this kid shouldn't have stepped away!!" No need to compare it to anything else. He did what he felt was best for him and that is okay. You don't have to get so worked up over it.
haha ok sport. I'm far from worked up on it, think its sad actually that is considered ok.

this is the epitome of mentally weak or attention seeking behavior.
 
haha ok sport. I'm far from worked up on it, think its sad actually that is considered ok.

this is the epitome of mentally weak or attention seeking behavior.

If only you had a mirror to look into. Calling for a Doctor to have his license revoked...sheeesh

I understand why you are really mad about this but it is fine. I am happy the kid made the best decision for him and that he had support. There's nothing wrong with doing that in life.
 
Kudos to coach Schiano for the support that he gave him...

Eldridge also praised Rutgers head coach Greg Schiano for providing support after he told him he was gay. “He was the most understanding and accepting person. It made me feel so safe and respected and valued,” he said.
Good job by Greg there. Not surprised but nice to hear.
 
"Gay men are two times more likely to have inflammatory bowel disease, according to new research"


Navigating inflammatory bowel disease can affect sexual health and well-being for people who identify as LGBTQ+ .​

What is inflammatory bowel disease?

IBD is a condition that causes inflammation along the gastrointestinal (GI) tract. The two main types are Crohn's disease and ulcerative colitis:

Crohn's disease: inflammation can occur anywhere along the GI tract (from the mouth to the anus)
Ulcerative colitis: typically affects the large intestine (colon) only.

IBD can cause diarrhea, bloody stool, weight loss, and abdominal pain, and is typically diagnosed with blood and stool tests, imaging, and colonoscopy. A diagnosis of IBD may increase the risk of developing anxiety or depression, and can also have an impact on sexual health. People with IBD may require long-term medical treatment or surgery for their condition.

 
"Gay men are two times more likely to have inflammatory bowel disease, according to new research"


Navigating inflammatory bowel disease can affect sexual health and well-being for people who identify as LGBTQ+ .​

What is inflammatory bowel disease?

IBD is a condition that causes inflammation along the gastrointestinal (GI) tract. The two main types are Crohn's disease and ulcerative colitis:

Crohn's disease: inflammation can occur anywhere along the GI tract (from the mouth to the anus)
Ulcerative colitis: typically affects the large intestine (colon) only.

IBD can cause diarrhea, bloody stool, weight loss, and abdominal pain, and is typically diagnosed with blood and stool tests, imaging, and colonoscopy. A diagnosis of IBD may increase the risk of developing anxiety or depression, and can also have an impact on sexual health. People with IBD may require long-term medical treatment or surgery for their condition.

Colitis can be genetic. We have no idea what the origin of his diagnosis is. But you’re just throwing this out there for the helluva it, right?
 
Colitis is a serious illness that can be exacerbated by stress. Colitis can be so bad that people end up having bowel resections and getting colostomies. It's a pretty serious and physically taxing disease.
Don’t want to like this because it’s a pretty awful disease that I don’t believe people bring on themselves. More showing agreement. Thank you for bringing a more informed perspective to the discussion.
 
Colitis can be genetic. We have no idea what the origin of his diagnosis is. But you’re just throwing this out there for the helluva it, right?

I was trained to look at facts and patterns.
STDs are astronomically high in the cohort this guy belongs to.
95% of monkeypox cases trace to men doing unsafe things
Many STDs can lead to colitis and colitis can even be a misdiagnosis.
The double rate of colitis was in comparison to heteronormative men doing unsafe things .
Syphilis, Chlamydia, Herpes simplex HIV, gonorrhea, anal cancer, HPV, hepatitis, encephalitis + - they show-up a lot in this group


"Rates of syphilis infection are rising globally in high-income countries and remain endemic in low- and middle-income ones [1]. In the United States, for example, syphilis infections have increased 71% since 2014, with at least half of infections occurring in men and transwomen who have sex with men.."


HALF of infections coming from small cohort.


"Data published in Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report and gathered by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) shows 99% of monkeypox cases in the United States are in males, and 94% of cases report recent male-to-male sexual or intimate contact."


Not for a second am I inclined to rush to assume "closet stress" caused this fellow's problem.
 
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I was trained to look at facts and patterns.
STDs are astronomically high in the cohort this guy belongs to.
95% of monkeypox cases trace to men doing unsafe things
Many STDs can lead to colitis and colitis can even be a misdiagnosis.
The double rate of colitis was in comparison to heteronormative men doing unsafe things .
Syphilis, Chlamydia, Herpes simplex HIV, gonorrhea, anal cancer, HPV, hepatitis, encephalitis + - they show-up a lot in this group


"Rates of syphilis infection are rising globally in high-income countries and remain endemic in low- and middle-income ones [1]. In the United States, for example, syphilis infections have increased 71% since 2014, with at least half of infections occurring in men and transwomen who have sex with men.."


HALF of infections coming from small cohort.


"Data published in Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report and gathered by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) shows 99% of monkeypox cases in the United States are in males, and 94% of cases report recent male-to-male sexual or intimate contact."


Not for a second am I inclined to rush to assume "closet stress" caused this fellow's problem.

And what does any of this have to do with the situation? We do not know what caused it to begin with so this is speculation and it honestly doesn't matter how he got the ailment. So what is the end game that you are trying to get to by posting all of this?

I am failing to see the issue here that caused you to go down this rabbit hole and cite multiple websites. IMO the story is that he stepped away to focus on his situation and that he had a lot of great support from the staff. Seems like a good outcome.
 
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I was trained to look at facts and patterns.
STDs are astronomically high in the cohort this guy belongs to.
95% of monkeypox cases trace to men doing unsafe things
Many STDs can lead to colitis and colitis can even be a misdiagnosis.
The double rate of colitis was in comparison to heteronormative men doing unsafe things .
Syphilis, Chlamydia, Herpes simplex HIV, gonorrhea, anal cancer, HPV, hepatitis, encephalitis + - they show-up a lot in this group


"Rates of syphilis infection are rising globally in high-income countries and remain endemic in low- and middle-income ones [1]. In the United States, for example, syphilis infections have increased 71% since 2014, with at least half of infections occurring in men and transwomen who have sex with men.."


HALF of infections coming from small cohort.


"Data published in Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report and gathered by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) shows 99% of monkeypox cases in the United States are in males, and 94% of cases report recent male-to-male sexual or intimate contact."


Not for a second am I inclined to rush to assume "closet stress" caused this fellow's problem.
So from your position absolutely no where near the circumstances of this young man’s condition, you have definitively determined the origin of his diagnosis? Do I have that right?

Please do correct me if you’re his doctor.
 
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Colitis is a serious illness that can be exacerbated by stress. Colitis can be so bad that people end up having bowel resections and getting colostomies. It's a pretty serious and physically taxing disease.
Yeah but he’s mentally weak, so f em.
 
This. He had a chronic medical condition - what may or may not have exacerbated it doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t wish colitis on anyone let alone someone trying to play football at one of the highest competitive levels.
play football at one of the highest competitive levels?

He's a long-snapper. They get protected.

granted.. at Rutgers in past years the long-snapper had a lot of work. But this player's issue had nothing to do with football... and he is cashing in a football scholarship for the rest of his time at Rutgers.

it should have been denied.. this is a bad precedent.

nothing aginst the kid.. I hope he's better now they he removed the stress of being closeted.. but it had nothing to do with football.

Gay men are two times more likely to have ulcerative colitis

Not gay football players.. gay men. I suppose if they studied that and the number for gay football players and it was 4 times more likely then the medical retirement status might be justifiable to a point.

We have any other medical retirements for unrelated afflictions milking the budget? Do we need to beg Elon to open a DOGE branch at Rutgers?
 
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play football at one of the highest competitive levels?

He's a long-snapper. They get protected.

granted.. at Rutgers in past years the long-snapper had a lot of work. But this player's issue had nothing to do with football... and he is cashing in a football scholarship for the rest of his time at Rutgers.

it should have been denied.. this is a bad precedent.

nothing aginst the kid.. I hope he's better now they he removed the stress of being closeted.. but it had nothing to do with football.

Gay men are two times more likely to have ulcerative colitis

Not gay football players.. gay men. I suppose if they studied that and the number for gay football players and it was 4 times more likely then the medical retirement status might be justifiable to a point.

We have any other medical retirements for unrelated afflictions milking the budget? Do we need to beg Elon to open a DOGE branch at Rutgers?
DOGE - LOL. We don’t even know if the guy is still here and you’re getting all lathered up over one scholie. I’m sure all 85 are ready to pull the trigger on this. Give it a rest.
 
And what does any of this have to do with the situation? We do not know what caused it to begin with so this is speculation and it honestly doesn't matter how he got the ailment. So what is the end game that you are trying to get to by posting all of this?

I am failing to see the issue here that caused you to go down this rabbit hole and cite multiple websites. IMO the story is that he stepped away to focus on his situation and that he had a lot of great support from the staff. Seems like a good outcome.

If you don't know what caused ailment then why speculate it was due to closet stress when colitis is a signature malady of specific behaviors? "Support" for self destructive actions is enabling and not to be praised. Lots of damage gets done via the mind game where destructive actions are praised/protected and failure to go along is pathologized - reality flipped upside down.

This society is suffering and people's lives destroyed because the mind games being played. The field of psychology is practically dead from all the false studies. Interestingly enough Rutgers is involved in a study of such abuse. When RU does something right it goes big.

This highlights the real unhealthy stress - Rutgers University Social Perception Lab

INSTRUCTING ANIMOSITY:
HOW DEI PEDAGOGY PRODUCES
THE HOSTILE ATTRIBUTION BIAS


"Taken in its entirety, this research demonstrates a pressing need for data-driven pressure testing of DEI
interventions to examine potential harms. In spite of the serious consequences we outline above, DEI
offerings have no independent, scientific review board for objective evaluation and no standards of
transparency for the materials themselves. Offerings at major corporations for example, were nearly
impossible to collect because these materials are not publicly available, and thus the full implications and
spread of potentially harmful content is currently impossible to examine.

This research raises critical questions about how many individuals, as a result of these programs, have
experienced undue duress, social ostracization, or even termination of employment. The hostile attribution
bias revealed in NCRI’s study appears readily transmissible by the DEI pedagogy above, much of which is
inserted into recommended or mandatory readings and trainings that are widely adopted at present. This
suggests the potential for a far broader scope of harm than previously considered, underscoring the
urgency of rigorous evaluation of anti-oppressive, DEI interventions to identify unintended and damaging
consequences, and, ultimately, to prevent them"

 
Why in the world are a couple of you upset a kid medically retired?
Hmmmmm-if the story left out 1 single fact, you all wouldn’t even give it a second look.
Exactly. The kid retired in March and only 2-3 people weighed in at that time. Medical retirements are not an easy thing to get approved.
 
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If you don't know what caused ailment then why speculate it was due to closet stress when colitis is a signature malady of specific behaviors? "Support" for self destructive actions is enabling and not to be praised. Lots of damage gets done via the mind game where destructive actions are praised/protected and failure to go along is pathologized - reality flipped upside down.

This society is suffering and people's lives destroyed because the mind games being played. The field of psychology is practically dead from all the false studies. Interestingly enough Rutgers is involved in a study of such abuse. When RU does something right it goes big.

This highlights the real unhealthy stress - Rutgers University Social Perception Lab

INSTRUCTING ANIMOSITY:
HOW DEI PEDAGOGY PRODUCES
THE HOSTILE ATTRIBUTION BIAS


"Taken in its entirety, this research demonstrates a pressing need for data-driven pressure testing of DEI
interventions to examine potential harms. In spite of the serious consequences we outline above, DEI
offerings have no independent, scientific review board for objective evaluation and no standards of
transparency for the materials themselves. Offerings at major corporations for example, were nearly
impossible to collect because these materials are not publicly available, and thus the full implications and
spread of potentially harmful content is currently impossible to examine.

This research raises critical questions about how many individuals, as a result of these programs, have
experienced undue duress, social ostracization, or even termination of employment. The hostile attribution
bias revealed in NCRI’s study appears readily transmissible by the DEI pedagogy above, much of which is
inserted into recommended or mandatory readings and trainings that are widely adopted at present. This
suggests the potential for a far broader scope of harm than previously considered, underscoring the
urgency of rigorous evaluation of anti-oppressive, DEI interventions to identify unintended and damaging
consequences, and, ultimately, to prevent them"


After the third unhinged post I see why you’re so worked up about this now.

“Society is suffering and people’s lives are being destroyed” could be the most dramatic and fragile responses to this story.

Maybe you should look inward at how these news stories impact you emotionally and why
 
I was trained to look at facts and patterns.
STDs are astronomically high in the cohort this guy belongs to.
95% of monkeypox cases trace to men doing unsafe things
Many STDs can lead to colitis and colitis can even be a misdiagnosis.
The double rate of colitis was in comparison to heteronormative men doing unsafe things .
Syphilis, Chlamydia, Herpes simplex HIV, gonorrhea, anal cancer, HPV, hepatitis, encephalitis + - they show-up a lot in this group


"Rates of syphilis infection are rising globally in high-income countries and remain endemic in low- and middle-income ones [1]. In the United States, for example, syphilis infections have increased 71% since 2014, with at least half of infections occurring in men and transwomen who have sex with men.."


HALF of infections coming from small cohort.


"Data published in Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report and gathered by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) shows 99% of monkeypox cases in the United States are in males, and 94% of cases report recent male-to-male sexual or intimate contact."


Not for a second am I inclined to rush to assume "closet stress" caused this fellow's problem.
The only positive take away from your posts. At least you trust the data from the CDC and NIH enough to reference them. It would be great if everyone on this site did.
 
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Sucks that he was comfortable enough to come out online to millions of strangers rather than the 100 plus guys he spent countless hours with. Maybe if given the chance they would have supported him and in turn it would have actually helped his overall mental and physical health
 
And what does any of this have to do with the situation? We do not know what caused it to begin with so this is speculation and it honestly doesn't matter how he got the ailment. So what is the end game that you are trying to get to by posting all of this?

I am failing to see the issue here that caused you to go down this rabbit hole and cite multiple websites. IMO the story is that he stepped away to focus on his situation and that he had a lot of great support from the staff. Seems like a good outcome.
Prior to his current account, he was actually banned from the CE board for making too many insanely homophobic posts. He never fails to take every possible opportunity to tell us all about the evils of homosexuality and other alternate lifestyles, citing studies that fully ignore the harmful impacts of outdated strongly negative societal attitudes towards those people.

But, to his credit, he's learned to express his views in a more acceptably moderate way. Not sure if that means his views are becoming more moderate, or if he still burns with the same hatred he once expressed.

Anyway, it's a free country so he can think what he wants long as he isn't going around hurting anybody. And people can ignore him and live whatever alternative lifestyles if they wish as long as they aren't going around hurting anybody.

I love freedom.
 
Sucks that he was comfortable enough to come out online to millions of strangers rather than the 100 plus guys he spent countless hours with. Maybe if given the chance they would have supported him and in turn it would have actually helped his overall mental and physical health
It's one-way communication; you can ignore what feedback you get in replies to a post. It's a lot hard to do face to face.
 
It's one-way communication; you can ignore what feedback you get in replies to a post. It's a lot hard to do face to face.
Maybe. Maybe not. Research shows us cyberbullying is just as harmful if not worse. Just sucks he didn’t trust his teammates enough to give them a chance to accept him.
 
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