I really really want to want the grand cherokee... I love my 2003 Jeep. I sat in the 2015 one, and I wanted to barf (wannabe luxury soccer mommy car gag reflex). It just felt wrong, and not like a jeep. Myabe I need to give it another look?
Why are you looking at crossovers, anyway? Sounds like you're a Jeep guy from the days that Jeeps were Jeeps (and not alien lifeforms like that ugly new Cherokee). Crossovers are the absolute definition of "wannabe SUV" - "urban adventure vehicle" is one of the more fashionable terms with marketing folks.
Luxurious or not, the Grand Cherokee is still one of the most capable mid-size SUVs out there. I'd be looking at that over the Fiat Renegade for sure.
I'd also be looking at the Toyota 4Runner, one of the only body-on-frames left. I just put about 500 miles on a Trail spec, including on some rough, single-width 4x4 trail, and it was a versatile beast - went from eating that stuff up to driving super-smooth and comfy on the highway. Might be too big for you, but I'd look at it anyway, at least to compare crossover car to SUV truck.
Just read that larger SUVs are gaining momentum again now that gas is down (leave it to Americans for shortsighted thinking), so maybe that'll reverse the course of auto cos cutting all the real SUVs in favor of building bulging lineups of soccer mom CUVs. I'll never forgive Nissan for turning the Pathfinder into a big, fat AWD hatch-wagon, then cancelling the Xterra a couple years later - how many crossovers can one company make?