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Agree. My advice, have kids in your early/mid twenties. I had my four between 36 and 44. I pray that I get to hold one of my Grand-kids Hard to keep up with my 14 yearold son at 52. If possible, make sure your wife to be makes far more money than you. Then you get to stay home with your kids, and help them grow up. Instead of becoming an ATM machine.

Early 20s? Maybe in Victorian America.
Or Utah. Or accidentally.
 
I'll share an idea. Start a journal (especially if you have kids). Once a week, or so, jot down small happenings or moments in you life that either made you laugh, think or grow. I started writing about interactions with my kids that I knew would be forgotten in time. These are the very moments that I can look back on now and remember and cherish. Rutgers football made it into the journal a few times also...jumping down on the field after the Louisville game in '06...losing 80-3 to WVU. My boy recently asked about his little league games (he remembered striking out a lot). I was able to look back at his batting average and show him a newspaper picture of him making a play at shortstop for the All-Star team. Mostly its about the kids and family but you can add newspaper clippings or anything that's important to you. I highly recommend it.

Really like this idea/post. U R thinking.
 
I tell my wife all the time, you married someone who if they didn't have bad luck he'd have no luck at all. My advice, life's going to throw you curve balls, sometimes to many to handle at one time. Just stay the course and persevere, if your working hard and doing the right thing, in the end everything will work out fine.

Also as I get older, I now tell everyone who says to me," Man you just have bad luck". Nah, I'm just saving all my good luck for later in life.
 
1. Let go of grudges. Like Ray Kinsella says, it's possible the son of a bitch will die before you can take it back.
2. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. When someone else gets a break and you don't, holding it against them does you no good. This time, they win. Maybe next time, you'll win.
3. Don't get married, have kids, or do anything else just because you've reached a certain age or it's supposed to be the next logical step in life. This is a sure way to build regret later.
4. Wear what you want, drive what you want. Your friends shouldn't care. On the flip side, if people are constantly calling out your character, "I'm gonna be me" or "I'm not changing for anyone" aren't smart. It's probably time to take a good look at who you are and who you want to be.
 
Obviously just my opinion but:

Location of where you live is very important, much more important that the size/style of house.
Don't make yourself house poor (and no, you probably don't need to redo the kitchen/bathroom/whatever).
Traveling is awesome, even day trips or short over-nighters improve my outlook greatly.
I disagree with the person who said marriage/kids are overrated. I didn't particularly want either, but I find I am much happier with both.
Shit can happen at any time, so don't put off the stuff you really want to do, the places you want to see. Life changes in an instance, and it won't go back to the way it was before.
Lastly, if you have people who cause you constant stress, cut them out.

Have to agree w/ this one. Since we moved to Ocean City (lifelong dream of living at the beach fulfilled) the quality of our lives has drastically improved. Smaller house, smaller yard, 1000% better times.
 
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The marriage part is over rated. The kids part is why you were born. Nothing moves you like they do.

So true. Wives come and go, but children are always family.

Life teaches us the lessons we didn't learn at home.

Money isnt everything in life. But it's way better than whatever comes in 2nd place.
 
"I have three rules which I live by: Never get less than 12 hours sleep, never play cards with a guy who has the same first name as a city, and never go near a lady with a tattoo of a dagger on her hand. Now you stick with that, and everything else is cream cheese."
Nice... Teen Wolf right?
 
One thing I need to learn. Work will be there when you get back from vacation. You don't need to take it with you while you go have fun.
And you don't have to stay late before you have fun either. If you have an emergency person to back you up, even better because nothing changes.
In the end, enjoy the time off because vacations go fast and you'll find out, nobody missed you.
 
Don't carry grudges
Try not to fret about things you can't control
Everyone else is as f'cked up as you think you are
Appearances can be deceiving
There is nothing worth killing yourself over.
 
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I don't give advice, I only follow it. Per Ty Webb: "There's a force in the universe that makes things happen. And all you have to do is get in touch with it, stop thinking, let things happen, and be the ball."
 
I don't give advice, I only follow it. Per Ty Webb: "There's a force in the universe that makes things happen. And all you have to do is get in touch with it, stop thinking, let things happen, and be the ball."
LOL. I get kicked out of bounds alot.
 
  1. You are not a beautiful or unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else.
  2. We all end up dead, it's just a question of how and why.
  3. There's nothing wrong with letting the girls know that you're money and that you want to party.
  4. Funerals are insane, the chicks are so horny, its not even fair, its like fishing with dynamite.
  5. If you’re good at something, never do it for free.
  6. Just because you are a character doesn't mean that you have character.
  7. Human beings were not meant to sit in little cubicles staring at computer screens all day, filling out useless forms and listening to eight different bosses drone on about about mission statements.
  8. If someone asks if you are a god, you say, "yes!"
  9. Marriage is like a tense, unfunny version of Everybody Loves Raymond, only it doesn't last 22 minutes. It lasts forever.
  10. If you're part of a crew, nobody ever tells you that they're going to kill you, doesn't happen that way.
  11. The older you get, the more rules they are going to try and get you to follow.
  12. Flying a plane is no different than riding a bicycle, just a lot harder to put baseball cards in the spokes.
  13. If you're not inside, you're *outside*!
 
I am a simple man, but I do know a couple of things. Friends that you can trust with your life and with secrets are to be guarded and treasured. Good whiskey tastes best when shared with those same friends. A good woman knows how to laugh with you and at you, because you are going to screw up.
Cut your losses in stocks and acquaintences early. Money is not the key to happiness, enjoying what you do for a living is. Don't be jealous of others, they have their own set of problems. God has a plan for you and everyone else, you have no freaking idea what that plan is I promise. Go fishing with your children or a friend. Exercise even though you hate it. Eat spicy foods occasionally. Don't trust any politician, they will only cheat and disappoint you. Disconnect from the Internet completely every now and then. It will make you feel better. Turn off the TV for a week or two before football season, you will be surprised how your attitude improves.
Wear your Rutgers gear often! You will be pleasantly surprised who comments on it(yeah, even in Little Rock, Ark).!
Finally, live YOUR life, laugh often, love others. Cram as much into the hours and days that you have left on this spinning planet. And leave it a little better off than you found it.
I love each and every one of you. Go Scarlet Knights!
 
Everything starts with yourself. If you don't believe in yourself hard for others to. Of course if you don't think you are worthy of love hard for love to find you.

Be confident, always smile (even when you are hurting). Others will definately notice you.
 
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Your reach should exceed your grasp....

-Words from a poem by Robert Browning, suggesting that, to achieve anything worthwhile, a person should attempt even those things that may turn out to be impossible.
 
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1. Find your "why". Most everything else will fall into place after that.
2. You can't cross the street and keep one foot on the curb.
3. Mistakes are learning experiences. As long as nobody gets hurt or dies, there's no such thing as a disaster.
4. Take what you do seriously, but don't take yourself so seriously. I don't trust a soul who doesn't have a good sense of humor about themselves.
5. Have fun no matter what you're doing.
6. Look for the good in people. There's more of it than you think.
7. Treasure all the time you can spend with your children.
8. Children are great, but when you get to hold the child of one of your children, it's another thing altogether.
9. Shit happens. Now what are you going to do? Learn from it and move on.
10. Be kind to and respectful of other people. It costs nothing and if they're jerks or idiots, at least you'll know they're not imitating you.
Bonus: don't expect anybody to be perfect. Not even yourself.
 
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  1. You are not a beautiful or unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else.
  2. We all end up dead, it's just a question of how and why.
  3. There's nothing wrong with letting the girls know that you're money and that you want to party.
  4. Funerals are insane, the chicks are so horny, its not even fair, its like fishing with dynamite.
  5. If you’re good at something, never do it for free.
  6. Just because you are a character doesn't mean that you have character.
  7. Human beings were not meant to sit in little cubicles staring at computer screens all day, filling out useless forms and listening to eight different bosses drone on about about mission statements.
  8. If someone asks if you are a god, you say, "yes!"
  9. Marriage is like a tense, unfunny version of Everybody Loves Raymond, only it doesn't last 22 minutes. It lasts forever.
  10. If you're part of a crew, nobody ever tells you that they're going to kill you, doesn't happen that way.
  11. The older you get, the more rules they are going to try and get you to follow.
  12. Flying a plane is no different than riding a bicycle, just a lot harder to put baseball cards in the spokes.
  13. If you're not inside, you're *outside*!

Too funny
 
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If you have kids, take as many pictures as you can. In the blink of an eye, they will be grown and you will wonder where did all the time and moments go - the pics will remind you of all those wonderful and precious moments. Someone else posted about starting a journal - add pics if you can - that journal will be the first thing you would grab if your house is on fire.
 
I know most would disagree, but you can have a great life without kids. Everybody tries pushing people to have kids, but there are those who don't want that world. And, you know what? You can have a great life and not be like nearly everybody else.
 
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