I can totally understand that.
For us (my ex wife and I), we were relived that, for undergrad, our kids eventually choose RU. Mostly because we knew they would wind up in grad school which basically made their undergrad choice less important. And RU was lots cheaper than most of their earlier leans.
One of my kids, for example, was leaning towards Northeastern for a while because, no kidding, "the cafeteria food was amazing". WTF? LOL. Meanwhile RU was throwing money at her while NE was dragging their feet on scholarship offerings.
I have to say, the RU Accepted Honors Student Day they ran, where all the HS seniors and their parents could visit and spend a day among honors faculty and graduating RU honors students, was eye-opening and went a very long way towards convincing my kids to go.
The thing that most convinced them was listening to like 30 RU seniors, during lunch, who went down the line listing their destinations after graduation. It was a recital of some of the most prestigious graduation programs in the world. The only people NOT going on to some great grad school were a couple kids who'd already started their own businesses.
Also, if not for us going to RUFB games with them, I don't think they would've even ever considered RU at all.
In the end, they could've chosen wherever they wanted (from those schools to which they'd been accepted, I mean). It wasn't going to be their money after all. But they ultimately settled on RU and I'm pretty sure, if asked, they'd say they were really glad they did so. For whatever that's worth.