Time to flush RU football for a few years..
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How To Handle a Drama Queen
Being effective starts with seeing drama for what it really is.
First of all, drama queen implies it’s a girlie thing. It’s not. Males and females alike are equally capable of requiring way more energy than a relationship with them is worth. Drama, being a close kin to high maintenance, may manifest itself in behaviors that look different across the continuum of masculinity to femininity, but make no mistake, drama kings are every bit as real as drama queens. So for the purposes of this piece, we’ll be talking, “drama persons.” From there the issue is, what do you do when one crosses your path? The easy answer is, nothing. But it is a conscious, deliberate and strategic nothing that nets the most impact.
Drama is a symptom—a symptom of childhood. If you participate—on any level—you feed a monster who is trapped in a time warp, but escapes every so often. That monster is determined to suck you into his or her own personal, self-esteem issues (a.k.a. drama) that were never resolved. It is an ego-gone-wild, trying to right some wrong that you need to see contextually with its origins rooted in the past.
Drama persons thrive on attention, but that’s because they learned to feel invisible and unimportant. This is where the drama comes from. They are merely trying to convince themselves, by trying to convince you, that they matter. They are blind to the feelings of others and have failed to develop the coping skills necessary for an adult life. Call it arrested development, call it a failure to grow up and evolve, but underneath it all they have yet to outgrow (or dispel) whatever negative feelings they learned to believe about themselves. The sad part is that if their behavior weren’t such a turnoff, there would be plenty of reason to have compassion for them, which ironically is what they really need to heal their wounds and move one.
Whether it is from believing they were not loved, not good enough, not wanted or accepted, an internal narrative developed, almost always unconscious, that plays out when memories of those feelings are triggered and/or come to the surface. In that process they exhaust everyone in the present by replaying whatever story they are telling themselves from their pasts. And so they act out.
Despite their efforts to involve you, there is nothing you can do to change them because changing them means trying to change personal histories, which is not possible. It’s done. It’s over. So, don't try. You’ll exhaust yourself. Each drama person must decide for him or herself to embark on a road of self-awareness and growth. If he or she doesn’t, the will to remain stuck is impenetrable. The only thing you can do is manage yourself, which is where doing nothing comes into play. Know how to draw a line. Know when to walk away. And don’t be afraid to say that the drama scene doesn’t work for you. That choice is yours to make. And when you do, they will disengage from the behavior—at least with you. They have to. You’ve left them with no alternative.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/office-diaries/201404/how-handle-drama-queen
Being effective starts with seeing drama for what it really is.
First of all, drama queen implies it’s a girlie thing. It’s not. Males and females alike are equally capable of requiring way more energy than a relationship with them is worth. Drama, being a close kin to high maintenance, may manifest itself in behaviors that look different across the continuum of masculinity to femininity, but make no mistake, drama kings are every bit as real as drama queens. So for the purposes of this piece, we’ll be talking, “drama persons.” From there the issue is, what do you do when one crosses your path? The easy answer is, nothing. But it is a conscious, deliberate and strategic nothing that nets the most impact.
Drama is a symptom—a symptom of childhood. If you participate—on any level—you feed a monster who is trapped in a time warp, but escapes every so often. That monster is determined to suck you into his or her own personal, self-esteem issues (a.k.a. drama) that were never resolved. It is an ego-gone-wild, trying to right some wrong that you need to see contextually with its origins rooted in the past.
Drama persons thrive on attention, but that’s because they learned to feel invisible and unimportant. This is where the drama comes from. They are merely trying to convince themselves, by trying to convince you, that they matter. They are blind to the feelings of others and have failed to develop the coping skills necessary for an adult life. Call it arrested development, call it a failure to grow up and evolve, but underneath it all they have yet to outgrow (or dispel) whatever negative feelings they learned to believe about themselves. The sad part is that if their behavior weren’t such a turnoff, there would be plenty of reason to have compassion for them, which ironically is what they really need to heal their wounds and move one.
Whether it is from believing they were not loved, not good enough, not wanted or accepted, an internal narrative developed, almost always unconscious, that plays out when memories of those feelings are triggered and/or come to the surface. In that process they exhaust everyone in the present by replaying whatever story they are telling themselves from their pasts. And so they act out.
Despite their efforts to involve you, there is nothing you can do to change them because changing them means trying to change personal histories, which is not possible. It’s done. It’s over. So, don't try. You’ll exhaust yourself. Each drama person must decide for him or herself to embark on a road of self-awareness and growth. If he or she doesn’t, the will to remain stuck is impenetrable. The only thing you can do is manage yourself, which is where doing nothing comes into play. Know how to draw a line. Know when to walk away. And don’t be afraid to say that the drama scene doesn’t work for you. That choice is yours to make. And when you do, they will disengage from the behavior—at least with you. They have to. You’ve left them with no alternative.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/office-diaries/201404/how-handle-drama-queen
wow,,,if you dont "know"...you are part of the problem.
Its not time to flush RU football
its time to flush poor fans
dont let the door hitya on your way to audition for Kinky Boots....
Dude, we just having a little fun with you. We are all a little disgusted right now. We don' have control over what's happening. Just try to enjoy the games and root for your team
We know you are a fan.
RU rockin. You are a bona fide nitwit. Go turn on rush Limbaugh and get angry.
JP - yeah i was pretty pissed the day I started this thread since it was a few mins after I read about the flood suspension. Meanwhile I had just endured Carroo and the loss while in the stands last week.
Obviously I'm watching the game.
JP - yeah i was pretty pissed the day I started this thread since it was a few mins after I read about the flood suspension. Meanwhile I had just endured Carroo and the loss while in the stands last week.
Obviously I'm watching the game.
[eyeroll]
In a what porta john would you find toilet paper ?
Not in the yellow or blue lot.
In a what porta john would you find toilet paper ?
Not in the yellow or blue lot.
Il you're a good poster. This is a blip on the upward trajectory of the program. This will pass(even if ESPN continues to run rehashed stories daily).
Regardless of what's going on, a win tomorrow would be a huge moment in the history of the program. Like the vast majority of fans, I'm super excited about tomorrow night.
Regardless of what's going on, a win tomorrow would be a huge moment in the history of the program. Like the vast majority of fans, I'm super excited about tomorrow night.
And you're sore p**y action of not turning the game on as if its some type of strike against the program, is even more lame.
Can't wait until we beat them on Saturday, and while I will be enjoying the game and the win afterwards, your sorry ass will be so mad at yourself for pulling a GLEE moment and pouting with the TV off only to learn later that we actually won.
A few days, not weeks. They had about six hours for a search unless they wanted to risk losing the recruiting class. In the long term, it might not have been a good reason to move quickly, but exactly who do you think they were going to get two weeks later?
Flush. It.
I'll be there next week, and also for the OSU and MSU D2 looking beat downs. I'll be drinking and flushing it! Embrace the year. Hopefully we get a new coach.
I'll be there next week, and also for the OSU and MSU D2 looking beat downs. I'll be drinking and flushing it! Embrace the year. Hopefully we get a new coach.
