For you two, as it's what you're used to. For others, I bet it's fine.In Wilmington- part of the higher DE tax cost is that they do have the largest FD in the State, one of the largest PD's etc...I am looking at a HOA that does do the garbage collection. HOA is only $300 a year.
Self-contained neighborhood- restaurants, stores, etc - the only downside is that the lots are very small. But the homes have a ton of character. It feels like you walked into a X-Mas movie.
And I linked all those things for others in the thread. Every agency is paid, not volunteer.
So even if you weren't in a HOA or a gated community...your trash gets picked up, a cop drives by your house and if you have something else, a fire or a medical emergency, your wait time will be reasonable.
Not bad for $4K a year.